Quit giving women reasons NOT to sleep with you!
Women understand abundance very clearly. By the time they develop breasts they begin to see men in a different way. They soon find out men want sex from them and will do just about anything to get it. They have their choice of whom they will sleep with and they have to start looking for reasons why they CAN’T sleep with every halfway-decent-looking guy who buys them a drink or asks them out on a date or else they would never get out of bed. Women themselves are highly sexual people—as much if not more than we are—which makes this hard and is the reason why they have to be choosy.
This is personified in an episode of Sex and the City where one of the women goes out to dinner with a potential mate and he accidentally gets salad dressing on the side of his face. At this point, it’s all she can think about—and suddenly attraction is gone. It is her job to find reasons—no matter how arbitrary they are—why to not invite you into her life. It is her job to find reasons to not sleep with you, so let’s stop giving them reasons.
Get cleaned up, put on some decent clothes, stop being a pussy, tell her how you feel about her and escalate. It is your job as a man to escalate and hers as a woman to pace it. Lead the interaction, find confidence in yourself and use it. Women are looking for the following cues to not sleep with you: Read the rest of this entry »
Kim and Kate of the Art of Charm stop by to discuss social dynamics from the female perspective.
